TS has a great post up – a usual – where he deals with this steaming pile of selfishness and disingenuous prevarication: http://sexistculture.tumblr.com/post/13846722819/men-get-raped-too-a-response-tw
The blogger’s basic position clearly is that rape is a woman’s issue. Period. Her pallid and half-hearted references to male rape are nothing but cover.
She winds up by saying to advocates for male rape victims and really also to male rape victims themselves: “But don’t you dare fucking interrupt me while you do it. This is a conversation, and in a polite conversation you have to listen and wait for your turn.”
Trans: “In other words: male victims, shut the fuck up.”
Read the comment thread. I wish I could quote the whole thing here, because the commenters do a good job on this.
Simple answer, simple remedy. These feminists cannot be part of the conversation around rape of males, and obviously are never going to be any part of the solution. They are victimizers rather than allies. Their insistence on clinging to primary victim status prevents them from being anything else.
“”But don’t you dare fucking interrupt me while you do it.”
Get over yourself. No one is interrupting you because you’re not in the conversation n anyway – you have no part in it. It’s not your conversation. You make that very clear that you can only insult and erase male victims and insist that their trauma is less than and secondary to yours.
There may very well be feminists who truly care about male rape victims. It is quite possible. But they have to do much, much better than this to get any respect from me on this. On the issue of male rape, they are just not good enough.
Feminists who talk like this? You like to think of yourselves as caring people, people who care about victims, who care about justice and healing the hurts of the world – well, that’s not who you are. You are victimizers and rape apologists, that’s who you are. You have shown you not only don’t care about male victims of rape, but that you want to silence and erase them. You re-victimize them. You are rape apologists.