Commenter Valerie Keefe offers this next installment of helpful advice to other feminists. Here is the first installment, by the way.
The standard feminist accusations against the MRM are that basically it is violent and hate-filled, which coming from feminists is hilariously hypocritical. (See also Agent Orange and the Radfem Hub.) The other is that the MRM is misogynist – homophobic and woman-hating selfishness that is really all based on fear and grief over the possible loss of male privilege. That’s a conveniently and dishonestly loaded formulation, and there is a lot to refute it. But the real point here is that trans issues are a real opportunity for the MRM to show it’s really about gender equality. Advocating for trans women is an attack on misogyny.
At the end of her advice Valerie appeals to MRAs, saying she will take help wherever she can find it (and thereby decide for herself who trans people’s real friends are.)
You know, every time that cis feminists accuse MRAs of doing no
activism and not living by their principles, I go down to the trans
HRT informed consent clinic in my neighbourhood, that cis feminists
built, right after they and their trans sisters, fought the good fight
to first set up informed consent abortion clinics in defiance of the
law, and then to ensure that abortion would be safe, legal, and
single-payer… the clinic they raised money for, and fought to open,
because they wanted to defy the cissexist standards of care in my
country, to prove that they were serious, that they believed “my body,
my choice,” should apply to everyone… And I take solace in the fact
that thanks to feminists I didn’t have to wait a year for estrogen…
and then I remember that cis feminists didn’t do that… anywhere.
They left millions of women around the world to the mercies of
misogynistic doctors… let countless thousands of women die… even
encouraged governments in their regulation and denial of transition
I live in Canada, and the thing that is awesome about Canada is that
we knighted the first doctor to go to prison for providing safe
abortions openly and on demand.
You know all those back-slapping I Need Feminism Because… posts? I
Need Feminism to get off its well-fed, white, cis, ass and save some
women’s lives! I need cis feminists to be activated with the same
level of righteous anger in demanding that informed consent HRT clinics
be built, into pressuring their local Planned Parenthood to announce
today, that they are taking in trans patients on an on-demand basis
tomorrow. I want the words, “transition should be as freely available
as abortion,” to be on every cis feminist’s lips Right. Fucking. Now!
Because we have waited for the last 40 years. 20 years for you to stop
actively hating us… 10 years for you to acknowledge that we exist…
and 10 years for your rhetorical support and a buck fifty to buy me a
goddessdamned cup of coffee. You owe us and you owe your own stated
This site, by the way, is where this clarion call
appears because cis feminists aren’t really interested in having this
discussion, so maybe MRAs, or at least the people they deride as MRAs,
can take this up and shame cis feminists into reclaiming the moral
authority they used to have.
Frankly, I will take any ally I can get. I’ve been waiting too long
for the ones I have to do anything.