R.A Dickey pitches for the Mets. He writes and reads a broad range of books. I don’t follow baselball at all, so that’s all I know about him. Well, now it seems he has written an autobiography and given his fame it is likely to get a lot of attention.
Bombshell: He was sexually abused at the age of eight by a female babysitter. The abuse went on for a period of time.That is not “ephebophilia’ or “true love” or any of those other comfortable pervarications when the rapist is female. this was straight up pedophilia, female on male. This was rape of a child.
Oprah got praise for finally mentioning boy victims of rape, after a career of bringing male sex abuse of girls and women to the stage. Good for her, for all of it. Of course she had to start with male sexual abuse fo females, because that’s all her audiences were open to hearing about, given their biases, comfortable prejudices and limitations. But in the end she led them to the point where they could acknowledge the existence of male victims. She never got to the point where she featured males who had been abused by women as boys before she ended her show, and maybe she just couldn’t get there. Bless her for what she did manage to do.
This is the next step. Of course there have been bloggers writing about this forever – Toysoldier comes to mind immediately – and he has a post up about Dickey himself – but they don’t have the access to a national audience that an R.A. Dickey does, and a specifically male national audience. That is the audience that needs to hear this, with their biases, comfortable prejudices and limitations; the others can come later. In that audience will be men who need to hear this for their own reasons.
It’s high time.